It is very important to talk with your child about sex, contraception, and STD’s. As there are many new things that they want to try. It is very important discussing with them such questions which connected with dating and sex. It would be best to start conversation about the body, not abusing it, caring for it. Also it is nice idea to start the conversation asking them what they known. For example, if you want discover what they know you can start your conversation from such questions as:
• What have you heard about STD’s?
• What do you know about sex or what did you hear at school about sex?
• How far do you think it is OK to go on a date? Etc.
 This is help you and this will clue you into misinformation they might have, and you’ll have the opportunity to correct it.
After explaining the biology of sex and which role it plays in our life, it would be right to explain how sex doesn’t have to necessarily result in pregnancy. You need to explain that pregnancy can be avoided through abstinence, and of course about lower chance to get pregnant if using the contraception, which tries to make sure the egg and the sperm do not connect.
Also one of important factors to explain your child that when a person decided to be active sexually, they are also signing up for the possibility of lots of other outcomes, such as: pregnancy, STD’s, regret, after the relationships ends, possible lowered chance of becoming pregnant at a later date when desires, and gossip.
There are a lot of other things that teens need to know and that you should explain them. For example you should explain the difference between dating and sex. That dating doesn’t have to include sex. Also you should tell them accurate information about STD’s. As if most teens do not know that STD’s can be transmitted by oral sex. Try to explain your child that sex is an adult activity, not a recreational sport to be decided in the moment. Moreover your child needs to decide where their own line is regarding sexual activity. Trying to decide this in the middle of a passionate moment, or when experiencing sexual pressure from a date is not a wise move.
There are things that you need to know before the conversation with your child. Don't go through this time alone - get support and input from other parents at your teen's school, your church or synagogue, or neighborhood parents groups. It helps to get ideas, support, and empathy from other parents who understand the challenges you are facing.
Try to be calm and in control of your responses. Overreacting, panicking, and controlling responses will just result in them shutting down and not sharing - and you want to keep the lines of communication open. It is important during these conversations to keep yourself as steady and non-reactive as possible. The bigger picture here is keeping the lines of communication open and to keep them feeling safe to share with you. Try some deep breathing, and coach yourself to stay centered - and bite your lip to keep from saying something reactive out of fear. Even though it's easy to be scared of what they are getting into, we need to stay the grown-up and keep ourselves centered.
It is very important to have a close relationship with your teen. Sometimes we can panic about things like dating/sex and come down hard on the rules- without having a strong connected relationship. When a close relationship is in place, teens will be much more likely to take in your influence and advice about dating/sex.
As their parents, we need to help them come to a right decision.
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